Habit four of Sean Covey's book The Seven Habits to Highly effective teens, Sean Covey states that "Think win-win is and attituede toward life, a mental fram of mind that says i can win and so can you."According to him not everyone has a win-win attitude. In face there are many different attitudes people in todays society thinks with. Such as the win-lose attitude, the lose-win attitude, the lose-lose attitude and of course the win-win.
The win-lose attitude,totem pole, says "I don't care how good I am as long as I'm a notch higher than you are." The world has trained us to think win-lose but win-lose always backfires. The totem pole always has one loser left on the bottom and the winner to rub it in his face sits at the top. Everyone thinks win-lose sometimes but its important not to stay in that way of thinking because you become filled with pride.
The doormat, lose-win, say's I dont like to fight so I'll let you win. Yes, this attitude is perfect for situations where you don't care either way, but you should always know when to back down and when to stand strong. If your attitude is lose-win you will always be following everyone else just to please them. Everyone steps on a lose-win person. That is why it is called the doormat.
The lose-lose or downward spiral attitude thinks "If Im going down, then you're going down with me!" Lose-lose occurs mostly when two win-lose people get together. Lose-lose is nothing you want to be associated with in any situation. Then of course win-win says I can win and so can you! When you have a win -win attitude all your relationships flourish. At times it can seem almost impossible to have a win-win attitude but it always pays off in the end.
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